When the gloss in your relationship starts to dim, it’s time to do something, before things turn rotten. The problem is that most people don’t appreciate that good relationships don’t just occur out of thin air. They need have to be worked at. It takes a lot of effort for a couple to be blissfully happy and in love for ten years or more.
Don’t blame each other
One of the main problems when relationships go south is that the people in a relationship tend to blame the other person, or even worse, blame themselves. Stop this rubbish right now. The fact is, it takes two of you to tango, and if there is a issue with your relationship, it’s because of both of you.
Create time for each other
Aside from blaming anyone, you need to create time to rekindle things. Of course, both of you have tight schedules, but unless you can make time to see each other, for the two of you, things are unlikely to get better. Set some time aside, at least twice a week, when you and your other half can enjoy some special time together with no distractions.
Make more effort
One of the unfortunate facts of life is that partners, after spending a few years in a relationship, rarely make an effort when it comes to how they look. This can have a negative effect on any relationship. If the female doesn’t bother with her make up any more, he is going to notice – and the same applies if the man doesn’t bother changing from his work gear in the evening, or when he doesn’t shave. It looks like you don’t care – not very productive for a healthy relationship! So make an effort to smarten yourself up – you’ll be amazed how much of a difference it can make!
Spend time together
Socializing as a couple, with other people, is a great way to improve your relationship. Make sure you have a regular meeting with some old friends, either round yours, at their home, or somewhere else. Meeting old friends, you’ll have a good time and it will help you to feel youthful again!
Work on your love life
One of the main causes of relationship problems is due to the “sex factor”. It’s a well known fact that most married and/or long term couples do not have great sex lives. This can be a primary cause of relationship trouble, or it can happen as a result of these issues. Take action to add some energy to your loves lives, such as going out for a quiet meal to get you in the mood, or do something crazy to spice things up, such as using some sex toys, looking at x-movies etc etc. If it comes to it, you might consider seeing a sex counselor. Sex is a vital part of any relationship, and if you don’t improve this then your problems will not go away.
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